At the age of 35, I started suffering from excessive menstrual bleeding along with severe uterine cramps. This greatly worried me and my husband, Dave. Because my mother had previously been diagnosed with a similar condition. Only she had passed away since her doctors had been unable to catch her ovarian cancer quickly enough. Because of which it spread, and completely seeped her life force away. My husband had recently met a famous obstetrician in an Xfinity Triple Play Deals conference in New York. And without wasting any time, he took me to his clinic straight away.
Because I Had Luck on My Side
Lucky that he did, because I was booked immediately for an emergency hysterectomy. I had caught the dreaded ailment too; although in a much less aggressive form. And as per the surgeon’s recommendation, I had good chances of survival. If I consented to the procedure without any delay.
So despite the heavy cost of the operation and its obvious physical & emotional toll, I started prepping for surgery. There simply wasn’t any other course-of-action available to me. And after an hour-long operation, I was given the all-clear.
And now I had no uterus or ovaries; organs that every woman considers central to her being. My heart, mind & soul seemed to be in mourning. I didn’t have any children; though not for a lack of trying. And now there didn’t remain any possibility that I could give birth to any of my own. Children who shared the same flesh & blood as me, and could continue our small family-line forward.
And this was the point that upset me and Dave the most. All the other aspects of our marriage now seemed superficial. Our mutual love, which had developed strongly since high school, seemed to have taken a back seat.
What the Doctor Never Told Me Would Happen…
This is not to say that our marriage had become irrelevant. Of course not. Both Dave and I were orphans, and this had cemented our bond even further. But my reproductive organs were gone now. And I soon discovered that our options for physical intimacy had lessened too.
Two months after my surgery, I joined a local Women’s Recovery group. And through the lengthy conversations that I had with other hysterectomy survivors, I learned many new things.
Seven Things that You Should Know about a Hysterectomy
I’ve listed all of this information in the form of seven points (with five brief explanations).
So the 7 things that you should know about a hysterectomy (and which your doctor may not have told you) are:
- Hysterectomies are Not Meant to Treat Endometrioses
- Your Ovaries May Have to be Removed
- Your Sex Life Doesn’t Need to Be Affected
- Hormonal Replacement Therapy (HRT) Can Be Beneficial for You
- Your Hysterectomy May Be Preventable
- The Availability of Less Invasive Surgical Options
- Psychological Recovery Can Be A Years-long Process
Hysterectomy is Not a Cure for Endometrioses
It is now well known in the medical community that hysterectomies are not meant to treat endometrioses. This condition causes a woman to suffer from frequent menstrual cramps and painful intercourse. The standard approach for managing this illness includes taking painkillers and hormonal therapy. In this way, a woman gets to fully preserve her uterus. Or at least a part of it.
It’s Not Always Necessary to Have Your Ovaries Removed
This depends on the type of illness that you suffer from. If it’s cancer, then there are good chances that your physician may recommend this. But in some other cases, it is entirely possible to preserve your ovaries.
Your Sex Life May Not Be Impacted
Unlike me, it may be entirely possible for you to keep your cervix intact. And if so, consider waiting out for a couple of weeks before engaging in any form of physical intimacy. This is important to give the adequate time needed to your sex organs to recover.
HRT Can Be Beneficial in Your Case
When you get your ovaries removed, your blood levels of estrogen and progesterone drop rapidly. These sex hormones have a major role to play in a woman’s cardiac & bone health. And so your doctor, under close observation, should recommend HRT. Only this comes with a few precautions, including an increase in breast cancer risk and stroke.
Your Hysterectomy May Be Preventable
It is always important to grill your doctor if he (or she) advises a hysterectomy procedure. Because there are good chances that you may be eligible for a number of other ‘simpler’ procedures. Depending on your condition, these can include uterine artery embolization, myomectomy, and ablation (among others).
Recently, I dialed the Windstream Customer Service Number to get listings of all the hospitals that offered these procedures in California. And I was absolutely shocked to learn that most medical facilities in the Mid-West don’t have the staff to cater to them. So before you sign up for any of these operations, consider doing a similar internet search for your area. And please choose the surgeon with the best ratings.